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- LIVING, Page 98Handing Out Scarlet Letters
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- Antiquated sex laws turn into a bludgeon for divorcing spouses
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- When James Jakubowski's marriage was heading toward the
- rocks, he decided to take action: he called the police. Two
- weeks later, his wife Dawn was under arrest for adultery. Like
- a modern-day Hester Prynne, Dawn was soon the talk of the town,
- Norwich, Conn., a circumstance that does not dismay her
- husband. "People in this society need to hear that adultery is
- wrong and that it destroys families," he proclaims. "I believe
- in the institution of marriage." His wife's lawyer is less
- enthused. "The thoughtless and insensitive act by Mr. Jakubowski
- has caused enormous embarrassment and humiliation to all
- members of his family," she says.
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- Dawn, who denies the charges, is one of the unlucky people
- who have found themselves hounded by an angry spouse in a state
- where old-fashioned sex statutes are still on the books. In a
- quirky twist to the contemporary no-fault-divorce saga,
- venerable adultery laws are occasionally being invoked by
- quarreling marital partners, sometimes for vindictive purposes
- and sometimes to gain leverage in lengthy settlement
- negotiations. In the weeks after Dawn's arrest, two other
- Connecticut women and one man were also charged with adultery.
- They face the same possible misdemeanor punishment: up to a
- year in jail and a $1,000 fine.
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- Usually, the targeted spouse is a woman. "This is the '90s
- version of public flogging," says Catherine Blinder of the
- Connecticut Commission on the Status of Women. "Women have
- always been persecuted for infidelity." In July Donna Carroll,
- a Janesville, Wis., homemaker, completed 40 hours of community
- service and attended a parenting session after her estranged
- husband charged her with adultery. While she denied the
- allegation, she agreed to the punishment in order to avoid a
- trial and the possibility of up to two years in jail and a
- $10,000 fine.
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- The incidence of adultery laws, as well as statutes
- prohibiting fornication (two unmarried people having sex),
- traces a hig-gledy-piggledy pattern across the national map.
- Adultery is still illegal in about half the 50 states,
- including New York, Massachusetts and Michigan; enforcement of
- the strictures is normally a dead letter. But since there is no
- organized constituency to demand their repeal, the
- prohibitions remain as bludgeons to be picked up in marital
- brawls. Says Ronald Allen, a professor of law at Northwestern
- University: "Who wants to come out in public in favor of
- adultery?" Primarily, the American Civil Liberties Union, which
- wages a campaign against the statutes whenever they are
- debated.
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- The difficulties for heterosexuals branded with the scarlet
- letter are similar to those for gays, who are vulnerable to the
- most frequently invoked sex laws: those prohibiting sodomy. In
- 1986 the U.S. Supreme Court upheld the right of states to ban
- homosexual sodomy, and since then, gay and civil rights
- activists have been fighting the increasing number of
- prosecutions. Nor are sodomy laws exclusively aimed at gays;
- heterosexual sodomy is deemed an impermissible act in 18 states.
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- says Robert Bray of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force.
- "And if it isn't 10 toes up and 10 toes down, heterosexuals
- risk going to jail too."
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- On the other hand, some conservatives and Fundamentalist
- Christian denominations praise the sex laws as an expression
- of a collective conscience, however they are used. "If these
- laws had been enforced with regularity in this country, then
- a lot more people would think twice about participating in
- sexually immoral acts," says Rebecca Hagelin of Concerned Women
- for America, a Washington-based lobbying organization. Warring
- spouses take note.
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- By Andrea Sachs. Reported by Anne Hopkins/New York.
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